The Toi et Moi Engagement Ring Setting

What does "toi et moi" mean?

‘Toi et moi’ directly translates to “you and me” – the perfect sentiment for an engagement ring symbolising the love between two people. The ring features two centre stones sitting side by side, rather than a traditional solitaire or trilogy setting with one or three stones respectively. The irregularity of this ring has made it extremely popular with younger generations looking to incorporate personality and meaning into their engagement rings, often preferring to select two differing stones to represent themselves as a couple.

What diamond cuts can be used in a toi et moi ring?

While this style was popularised by Emrata with her princess and pair cut toi et moi ring , any cut will look wonderful in this setting.

Pear cut gemstones are one such stone which you’ll nearly always find in toi et moi settings. While this cut is classic, it lends itself well to being positioned next to any other cuts and can be rotated multiple ways depending on how you’d like the stone positioned.

Some toi et moi settings have the gemstones sitting straight from north to south, while others have them sitting on a diagonal. Others have the stones sitting snugly side-by-side, like our

Tanya Oval and Emerald Toi et Moi ring , while others like the Salma Pear and Marquise Toi et Moi are on an open band, perfect for a unique look.

Can I use coloured gemstones in a toi et moi ring?

While toi et moi engagement rings are largely found featuring diamonds, there is an opportunity to incorporate multiple gemstones on the ring. While diamonds are generally the standard engagement ring stone of choice, if you wish to add another gemstone for aesthetic or emotional reasons, doing so in a toi et moi setting means having the best of both worlds.

At Cullen Jewellery, we have a wide range of coloured gemstones, such as lab grown diamonds and sapphires – both of which will look stunning when incorporated into this setting.

Fancy-coloured diamonds are gems that are not colourless or white. Their value is determined by the intensity and distribution of their colour.

What carat weight stones look best in a toi et moi ring?

While there is no rule on a minimum carat weight for the gemstones in your toi et moi ring, it is certainly worth trying on rings to see how they look and feel on your hand. In theory, you might think you want the same ring as your favourite celebrity or influencer, but only you can judge whether it suits your hand.

There are no hard rules when it comes to toi et moi setting carat weight. Mixing carat weights, like mixing stone cuts, can be a wonderful way to incorporate smaller stones into a toi et moi engagement ring. Our Amor ring features an emerald cut stone beside a pear, offering a balanced contrast.